no shame, all love

By now, I’m sure that many of you have seen (or at least heard about) the controversial video that was posted by YouTube “comedian” Nicole Arbour last week.

The rant-style video entitled “Dear Fat People” has caused quite the uproar and [allegedly] also led YouTube to temporarily suspend her account (read about the other speculations here). Whether or not YouTube actually did step in, the harmful nature of the video speaks for itself…

8bbf40d95d926740861f3ca3f553b0feI’m not going to get into the technical inaccuracies of the video. We all know that there are a variety of health issues that can cause a person to gain weight quickly and unexpectedly and that a person’s health isn’t necessarily defined by their jean size. Every person has a past that has led them to where they are today and it is ignorant to assume that every overweight person excessively eats McDonalds and Krispy Kreme Donuts every chance they get. That’s just not how it works.

But like I said, that’s not what I’m here to talk about…

What I want to talk about is WHY this type of thing would ever be considered “funny”.

In a world where children, teens, young adults and grown men and women are constantly falling victim to depression, self-harm and suicide due to prejudices and bullying, why would anyone think it’s okay to then shine a judgmental spotlight on the overweight population? Who does it benefit? No one. Cyber-bulling is still cyber-bullying whether it’s coming from an anonymous instagram account or a very popular YouTube star. It’s painful, hurtful and dangerous, no matter who the source is.

As someone who has dealt with body-image issues my whole life, I can say that hearing overweight OR underweight people shamed for their bodies makes me sick. It’s hard enough to love ourselves in this overly-critical world and and I can’t believe than anyone (let alone a female) would come along and choose to make it even harder.


We should be loving, supporting and encouraging one another through the good times and the bad. We should encourage those around us, no matter what size or shape they are, to nourish their bodies and find a weight that makes them happy and healthy.

We should live to inspire others through positivity, not criticism.Ā 

Here’s to never-shaming, ever-loving…


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  1. Nysja said:

    Such an inspiring post.. I’d love for you to check out my blog saying we stress similar messages to our readers! I am new to blogging and would love the feedback

    • Emily said:

      Thank you so much! I’ll be checking out your blog today- can’t wait! ā¤

  2. This. While I hadn’t heard about that video before – hello from the country far far away šŸ˜‰ – what you said is worth stressing every day. Without a specific reason. I’ve often been wondering if there will ever be an end to body shaming – whether adressing thin/bigger/otherwise different people – in this world. Not trying to be negative but I doubt it as there are just too many judgemental people out there. BUT every single one of us not participating and possibly even telling those people off can make a difference. Like telling other girls picking themselves apart at the gym that they should be so proud for going there, working out and having fun.
    Great post, girl <3.

    • Emily said:

      Thank you, thank you, thank you. This comment made my day.

      I agree. Unfortunately, I think body-shaming is always going to be present in our world, in some form or another. It breaks my heart to think that but judgement and comparison have become a huge part of society. But, like you said, the more we each focus on not participating and counter-acting the negativity, the better.:)

  3. I totally agree with you. Shaming someone isn’t going to inspire them to change for the better. I’m not sure why ‘celebrities’ (I use that term loosely) think they have some special ‘right’ to go off at the mouth just because of their platform…

  4. P said:

    Love this post, and the message you try to drive home. It’s still upsetting to see/hear how ignorance spreads like wildfire…but it’s posts like these that help to fight that šŸ™‚

  5. I recently just found your blog. I adore your message and found this post really respectfully written about such a controversial viral video. I completely agree with you, especially about how overly-critical our society seems to be. We grow up in a world where shaming, especially regarding physical appearance, is the norm. So sad! Thanks for being such a positive voice in this confusing world!

    • Emily said:

      Aw, thank you so much! I’m so happy that you found my blog and that it has resonated with you. I can’t wait to get to know you more through blogging- do you have a blog or social media? Feel free to follow me on instagram @missemmysue if you do! Would love to follow you. xo

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