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Side Note: Melissa suggested that I turn my Peek Into My Week posts into a link-up and create a button for you all to use on your blogs. I think it’s a great idea and, if it’s something you guys would like, I’ll definitely get working on it! (I’m not very tech-savvy so it may take a few weeks)

& back to your scheduled programming…

YES. 

Powerful, right? Arguably one of the most powerful words in the English language.

Without ‘yes’, nothing would ever happen. Nothing would ever change. Nothing would be created. Nothing would be experienced. Life would come to a halt. Saying ‘yes’ is the gateway to opportunity.

0c42752d23e295deb9159b8b43535ba2Unfortunately, many of us live in a world of ‘no’. We create a reality that feels safe and comfortable and then we’re afraid to break out of it. It makes sense. I mean, if we don’t open ourselves up to the unknown, then we can never get hurt. We feel like we can avoid pain and disappointment by avoiding the unpredictable. And it’s [kind of] true. But then what are we living for?

Saying ‘yes’ is scary, no matter what we’re referring to. It could be taking on an intimidating project, going out with your friends on a Friday night, challenging yourself to a new workout routine, accepting a date offer, anything. We’re presented with opportunities like this every. single. day. and yet, a good percentage of us constantly say ‘no’. We don’t want to mess with comfort.

I don’t want to be one of those people anymore. I have been for months and months and, to be honest, I’m bored. It feels like I’ve been living half-alive. I go through motions and never experience anything new because I’m afraid of the outcome. But really, what is there to be afraid of?

So, I might have an awkward date, a failed project, a night that doesn’t go according to plan, but who cares? In the grand scheme of things, isn’t that worth creating experiences and making memories? Isn’t the possibility of a good outcome worth having a few bad ones?

It is.

Now, I’m not saying to go all Yes, Man on me and make ridiculous, unpractical decisions just for the sake of saying ‘yes’. That’s not my point at all. My point is that we all should challenge ourselves to say ‘yes’ more often- even when it feels uncomfortable. We should go out, make new friends, expose ourselves to new opportunities, take on daunting tasks, push ourselves, or- if it’s scary- merely stop and take a day off. Let’s do whatever it is we’ve been saying ‘no’ to. Let’s see what we’re capable of.

a night outHere’s to being ‘yes’ people…

-Emily

Look at that, I stayed on schedule all week. Major points for me!

And now I’m back to share this week’s odds n’ ends. Enjoy!

A Peek Into My Week 9/21-9/27: 

Things I Did:

myweek11. Started a new tradition

One of my best friends, Shelby, and I decided to make our ‘girl’s nights’ a weekly affair. We’re going to alternate between our apartments- the host cooks and provides food, the guest provides wine. We got together for installment #2 on Sunday night at my place. On the menu: finger foods (hummus, fruit, veggies, crackers, cheese, etc.) and wine (duh) which was all consumed while watching The Emmy’s.

myweek22. Ate kale. A lot of kale. 

Like I mentioned last week, I’ve been trying to eat a little healthier. So, I bought kale because it’s the epitome of “healthy food”- kidding (kind of). Then I made the most amazing salad ever. And ate it over and over again. I usually pair it with almond butter toast or crackers with hummus ’cause I like carbs.

The anti-recipe: Toss kale (washed/de-stemmed) in a bowl with shredded carrots, scallions, tomatoes, half of an avocado, the juice from one lemon, sea salt (be generous), and pepper. Massage it all together and really mash up the avocado so it’s like a dressing. Devour. Holy yum.

3. Did some fall shopping

Nordstrom Rack is dangerous. End of story.

IMG_52304. Rediscovered [lots of] jewelry and clothes

Oh, the perks of going on a massive cleaning/organizing rampage.

sunshineboys5. Saw “The Sunshine Boys” 

On Thursday night my friend Robby and I had tickets to see The Sunshine Boys in downtown LA. The play stars Danny DeVito and Judd Hirsh and was absolutely hilarious. Being that I spent 75% of my childhood watching Matilda, I was giddy about seeing Danny DeVito live and he definitely didn’t disappoint. If you live in the LA area, I highly recommend snatching up tickets!

Things I Learned:

1. Fashion blogs are addicting (like this one, this one, & this one)

2. The StairMaster is death (especially when you haven’t been exercising much)

3. Miley Cyrus isn’t stopping (source)

4. Gratitude really does bring happiness (source)

5. i0S 7 isn’t so bad after all (I gave in)

Overall, it was a really good week. I made a few much-needed changes and decided to step back and just be thankful for all of the amazing things I do have in my life. I decided to focus on the positive. I decided to finally be a “yes” person- more about that on Monday! Have a beautiful weekend, everyone!

Here’s to being blessed with another week…

-Emily

I’ve been saying that I want to change up my bedroom for months. Literally…months. I’ve been in my current apartment for 2 years and haven’t re-done anything since I moved in. There was nothing wrong with my room but it didn’t bring me bliss. Not at all. I’ve spent many, many unhappy days here and, unfortunately, held on to a lot of things that brought back those emotions. I needed something new that would reflect the joyful, free person that I’ve become. I needed a room that would make me smile.

I woke up yesterday morning and had the urge to rip everything down. So, I did.

I didn’t take pictures of the process (although I DO wish I had taken ‘before’ pictures) because it was a mess. Trust me. I cleaned, shopped, and re-organized all day but the outcome was so, so worth it.

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Bedroom3 Bedroom4There are still a number of things I want to change/add when my budget allows but, for right now, I’m happy. I actually feel at home in my room for the first time…ever. And that’s exactly what I needed.

Don’t be afraid to change things or throw things away. If you haven’t touched them in months, you probably don’t need them. If they stir up negative emotions, you definitely don’t need them. Your room is the one place where you should feel 100% safe. It should be your haven…make sure that it is.

Here’s to throwing out the old and bringing in the new…

-Emily

I’m a “fixer”. I always have been and always will be.

What does that mean exactly?

For me, it means that I like to help people. I always feel like it’s my duty to be there when people need guidance, advice, aid, etc. When I see a problem, I want to help fix it. That’s just my personality.

Sometimes it works. Sometimes I’m able to say things that get through to people or guide them in a direction towards happiness. Sometimes I’m able to help alleviate the pain they’re dealing with and reassure them that they deserve freedom from whatever is holding them back. And that’s amazing.

But, sometimes it doesn’t work. Sometimes people don’t want to be helped. Sometimes they don’t see a problem, even when their negativity is hurting the people around them. Sometimes they don’t care.

For us “fixers”, that’s hard to accept. We’ll keep trying and trying, convincing ourselves that one day they’ll see the light. When we genuinely love and care about someone, it’s hard to ever step away.

Sometimes we have to.

I write this post with tears in my eyes. I know how hard it is. To feel like I’m “giving up” on someone is easily one of the scariest, saddest, and most heart-breaking things I’ve ever experienced. But, it’s important to know when enough is enough. We can fight forever but, when people refuse to accept help, there’s nothing we can do. There comes a time when we have to put ourselves first. We can’t allow another person’s toxicity stand in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we love them.

In my life, I’m turning that corner.

I’ll save the gritty details- they don’t matter anyways. The point is this:

Fight for the one’s you love. Fight as hard as you can. But when that fight starts to pull you down-mentally, emotionally, and physically- step away. You’re not failing. You’re just refusing to sink.

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy.”

-Jose N. Harris

This post is vague on purpose. My hope is that each one of you can relate in your own personal way. Hold your loved ones close. Be thankful for the people that fill your life with joy and happiness. Don’t succumb to hate. Don’t let people drag you down. Don’t spread their negativity. Don’t give in to pain.

You deserve bliss. Never, ever forget that.

Here’s to knowing when enough is enough…

-Emily

According to my new blogging schedule (!), Fridays are now dedicated to looking back on the previous week. In general, I try to keep my posts concise and to-the-point which, unfortunately, doesn’t leave much room for randomness. That’s where Friday’s posts come in- I’m giving myself free-range to share anything I’ve thought, experienced, and learned recently. An unfiltered “peek into my week”.

A Peek Into My Week 9/13-9/20:

Things I Did:

peekinmyweek9201. Discovered an [expensive] addiction 

After falling into a rut of eating not-so-healthy, I decided to kick my butt into gear this week. I’m not on a diet- not even close- and I’m far from eating ‘clean’, but I needed a change. I felt yucky and my body was craving more fresh foods and less processed crap. So, I listened. I started with incorporating some green juices into my daily routine and, holy moly, I’m addicted. Too bad these suckers are $6/bottle.

2. Wined & dined with an old friend

One of my best friends from high-school is going to film school out in LA and we’ve yet to truly reconnect since she’s been here. We had a girl’s night last night, complete with homemade pasta/salad/wine, and it was absolutely perfect. We’ve both grown and changed so much and yet it feels like we were never apart. True friendship is one of the most beautiful things ever.

peekinmyweek92023. Broke out the candles

If I close my eyes and think reeaaally hard, it almost feels like Fall. Out come the candles. Naturally.

4. Found an exception to the ‘no white after Labor Day’ rule 

Subtle and chic, just the way I like it. Thank you, Chanel, for your over-priced nail polish.

5. Rediscovered my ripped jeans

I can’t say that I’m a fan of this summer’s “grunge” trend but I have rekindled my love for destroyed denim. And denim jackets. And denim on denim. Okay, I’m done saying denim now.

Things I Learned

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1. I don’t like pumpkin spice lattes and I’m not alone

2. Conquering fear IS possible (article) 

3. Whole Food’s really is a cult (article)

4. They’re remaking The Sound of Music…with Carrie Underwood (article)

5. Disney Princesses officially ‘wear the pants’ (article)

Welp, that’s that. My week in review. The entertainment industry really is feast or famine…one week I can’t keep up with the auditions/jobs and the next there are none to be found. Obviously this week was the latter. Ah well- on to the next! I’ll be back next Friday for [read: scheduled] installment #2.

Here’s to another 7 days of possibility…

-Emily

I’ve gotten really good at this whole disappearing act, eh? It takes some serious talent. (kidding)

In all seriousness though, I really do want to settle back into a blogging routine. I hate to work so hard at something and then let it dwindle away because I’m “too busy”. I care about this blog, I care about whoever is out there reading it, and I care about sharing my thoughts and inspirations. So, I need to show that by staying consistent and honing in on what my blogging “voice” really is.

I don’t know a lot but I’m always learning. Every day is an adventure and I want to do a better job of taking you along for the ride. My love for the entertainment industry is rebuilding itself at lightning speed and I’m also discovering a passion for art and fashion that I never knew existed. I live in one of the craziest (aka: weirdest) cities in the world and I’m constantly surprised by the things I see/hear/experience.  My outlook on life has turned a major corner and I absolutely love it.

Enough rambling…

I won’t reveal too much about what’s to come on Build Your Bliss but I will tell you this; I’m actually creating a blogging schedule. Yep, you read that correctly. I’ve never taken my blog seriously enough to outline my posts ahead of time and I really think hope  it’s going to help me stay on track.

The first of many [organized] posts will be headed your way tomorrow!

Until then, I’ll leave you with a picture of this little chunk…

chunkymonkeyHere’s to turning thoughts into actions…

-Emily

Life is weird.

I wish I could predict it, understand it…make sense of something. But it always surprises me. I guess that’s where the fun lies, eh? The unknown. It keeps us on our toes and fills us with constant wonder and curiosity. I feel like we deem so many of our days “ordinary” and forget that every single moment is a gift. No matter how down I’m feeling, there’s one thing I can smile about: I’m here.

Right now, I’m trying to embrace that. I’m not pushing away the pain- I’m acknowledging it- but I’m refusing to dwell on it. I’m constantly reminding myself of how lucky I am to have my family, my friends, my health, and this world of opportunity. I’m trying to practice what I preach. I’m looking at my situation as if it were my best friend’s and taking my own advice;

Have faith that everything happens for a reason…

HeadshotsCollage TheFederalDinner IMG_5133This weekend was about doing what felt good. That included my first yoga class in months, choosing/ordering my new headshots, a night out with friends, a long morning run, work, etc. So, I’ve covered all the bases- mental health, social health, physical health, and financial/career(?) health.

And you know what? That feels damn good.

Here’s to finding something to feel lucky for…

-Emily