My relationship with food and exercise has always been a wonky one. I tend to fall into “extremes”- whether that be a restrictive, vegan diet or eating out 24/7, over-indulging and not caring.

It has taken a long, long time for me to get comfortable with my body and stop viewing food as the enemy. The road to where I am now hasn’t been easy at all but every challenge and moment of struggle has been worth it to find the freedom that I have now and share it with you.

That being said, I’ve definitely let myself get a little toooo relaxed over the past few months and I can feel it. I have less energy and I don’t crave healthy foods like I used to…I crave carbs and sugar and all of the other junk that I’ve been eating. Not good. 

So, it’s time to pull in the reigns a little bit and find a healthier balance.

In the past, I’ve always taken extreme measures to lose weight and get in shape and I refuse to do it again. I’m going to prove to myself and, more importantly, to everyone reading this who has struggled (or is currently struggling) to find a healthy relationship with food that you can eat healthy and get in shape while still having fun. You don’t have to sit at home every night with a bowl of raw vegetables while your friends are out on the town. You don’t have to exercise for hours every day and you definitely don’t have to force yourself through workouts that you hate. It’s not all or nothing. 

I’m going to focus on nourishing my body with more nutrient-dense foods, moving a little more often and reaping the benefits of a healthy body and mind. And you better believe I’m still gonna have fun.

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So, who’s with me? I’m not going to make any more blogging promises because, let’s be honest, my schedule never seems to coordinate with my plans. But I’m hoping to document my progress as much as possible and use Build Your Bliss as an outlet for my discoveries, accomplishments, setbacks and to chat with all of you about your journey. After all, this blog was created on the idea of building our own personal bliss and that definitely includes a happy and healthy body.

Here’s to squats and smiles…

-Emily

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Can you believe it’s mid-January already?

and could my post-opener be any more cliche? 

In my last post, I talked about my intention to make this year different. To find happiness, balance, bliss. I thought about it (a lot); what I wanted to do, how I wanted to feel, which direction I wanted to take. My deepest desire has always been to make a difference by making people smile. Silly? Maybe. But it’s true and I realized I would never accomplish it until I started truly smiling myself.

So, I decided that’s where I needed to start.

My goal for this new year came down to one thing: having more fun.

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I’ve lived in a world of safety and comfort for as long as I can remember. I’ve continuously convinced myself that I liked it that way. I liked having a life that revolved around work (and work only). I liked coming home early. I liked always getting enough sleep. I liked skipping nights out because it proved that I was “responsible”. I lived that way for so long that I sincerely believed it.

Well, I’m done. I can’t explain it but something finally clicked.

Recent years in my life all blur together. I made all the “right” choices and painstakingly lived on repeat. And guess what? I don’t remember any of it. I don’t remember any of the nights I skipped the party in lieu of a solo-meal at home and an early bedtime. I don’t remember any of the dates I didn’t go on. I don’t remember any of the chances I didn’t take. They weren’t worth remembering.

Over the past two weeks, I’ve had more memorable experiences that I’ve had in the past 3 years combined. I’ve surrounded myself with amazing people, stayed out too late, danced, Iaughed…and smiled brighter than I even knew was possible. I’m having fun and sorry, I’m not sorry.

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Take a look around you. What are you holding back? Why? So many of us try to create a “perfect life” when, in reality, a life of bliss will always be more fulfilling than perfection. A life filled with unbelievable people, unforgettable moments and immeasurable joy…that’s the life you deserve.

Here’s to having fun…

-Emily

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I’m just going to say it, 2014 was not my year. At all. 

I’m not going to dwell on it or delve into details because that doesn’t allow me to change anything.

What I can change from this point forward is my mindset; the way I see myself, my outlook on the world around me and the way I react to every situation I face. I have the power to change those things and I have every intention of doing so this year.

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I don’t take making resolutions lightly. When I set out to do something, I want to succeed and this situation is no different. My goal for 2015 is to take back control of every aspect of my life.

I’m going to focus on loving my body and all of the wonderful things it is capable of. I’m going to surround myself with positive, uplifting people and always aim to bring joy and laughter to those around me. I’m going to follow my heart instead of letting my head get in the way. I’m going to fuel myself with healthy, nourishing foods. I’m going to exercise as a reward, not a punishment. I’m going to take every opportunity to say yes, even when it scares me. And most of all, I’m going to life my live for me– not my parents or friends or anyone else– me.

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No matter who you are or where you are in life, happiness is achievable. It’s not going to arrive at your doorstep in a beautifully wrapped package and tied with a bow, but it is possible. It’s a matter of learning to love and appreciate the little things. The silly moments with your friends, a perfectly brewed cup of coffee, a hug from your sister, the endorphin rush after a workout…whatever it is that brings you a moment of joy. And when the negative thoughts and feelings set it, focus your attention on the little joys and one day you’ll wake up and realize that your life is overflowing with them.

So, take a moment to reflect on the past year. What did you love about it? What did you hate? And most importantly, what are you going to do to make the next 365 days even better?

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Here’s to a beautiful fresh start…

-Emily

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The rain in LA recently has had me (and the rest of So-Cal) all kinds of confused. But despite my general dislike for wet weather and its affect on my hair, makeup, clothes, car, etc. we needed it. 

Plus, the less-than-stellar weather got me thinking about this…

058a03a67b9939e30f4c21ae36cf3c93The funk that has consumed me for the past few months has definitely felt like a storm. I’ve let it confuse me, consume me and control me rather than embracing my discomfort and turning it in to something positive. Despite common misconception, I believe that there is always a silver-lining.

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5 Simple Ways to Be Happier:

1. Be Thankful

Think about all of the things you’ve been blessed with. Family, friends, a home, food, two legs to walk on, two eyes to see…that’s only the beginning of my [seemingly] endless list and I have no doubt that yours will be just as extensive. We. Are. So. Lucky. Make a list of the things that you’re thankful for and make it a mission to show your appreciation (through words or actions) for one thing every day. Saying ‘thank you’ is more satisfying and eye-opening than you could ever imagine.

2. Be Present

Don’t run away from discomfort, embrace it. Feel it. Running away only allows it to marinate and manifest within you. So, aim to understand why it’s there and what’s causing it and then use that knowledge to transform it into something positive. You have the power to do that.

3. Be Honest

Be honest with yourself; your brain, your body, your friends and family…honesty is beauty.

4. Be Confident

You are you. It doesn’t get more simple (or obvious) than that. But it’s true and it’s often forgotten. You are the only you and this is your only life. Why waste it feeling ashamed or uncomfortable? Find beauty in yourself, your talents, your appearance, your quirky characteristics…everything. Above all else, you owe it to yourself to love everything about you.

5. BE

Simple as that. Just be. Right here, right now. This life is yours.

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So, how am I doing with all of this? I’m getting there. I’m finding my way and choosing to be open about it and that’s terrifying. I’m putting my most-vulnerable self out there and admitting that life isn’t always perfect. I’m telling you that sometimes there will be tears and that’s okay. 

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They say that “good things come to those who wait” but, after months spent waiting, I’ve come to the conclusion that it doesn’t work that way. Good things come to those to allow good things to happen to them. Feeling the sensation of personal bliss is a journey, not a destination. When you begin to search for the positive and celebrate every single time you stumble upon it, happiness just happens.

Here’s to dancing in the rain…

-Emily

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Holy blog-neglect, Batman. 

I know. I’m sorry. Cue the excuses. Don’t hate me.

The past few months have been…weird. I don’t know how else to explain it. Job transitions, promotions, managing finances [aka: paying ridiculous amounts to live in a box in LA], personal shizzz, you know…life. To be completely honest, it has been rough. I’ve found myself feeling lonely, confused and depressed on more than one occasion and haven’t been able to explain why.

On Wednesday of last week, something shifted. I woke up and thought, “I don’t want to feel this way anymore”. So, I decided that I was going to smile and have a good day and you know what? I did.

I’m done letting life situations influence my happiness. I’m done searching for bliss in the world around me. It’s time to practice what I preach, discover those things within myself and share their beauty with as many people as I possibly can. That’s what this blog is about.

So, I’m back.

With that being said, there are definitely going to be some changes around here. My vision for Build Your Bliss is to be a place where anyone and everyone can come to find inspiration, thoughts and ideas. Rather than simply recapping my days and talking about myself, I want this corner of the internet to be brimming with creativity, positivity and beauty that benefits you.

My plan is to make the switch over to self-hosted by the start of 2015 and bring BYB back with a bang. As I continue working out the details, I want to know– what do you want to see more of? Fashion & Beauty, Career-Advice, Health & Fitness, Life Thoughts & Inspiration…you tell me.

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Here’s to loving your life…every minute of it…

-Emily

Follow me on Instagram & Twitter: @missemmmysue

Where do I even start?

I’ve been promising an update post for months now and have been putting it off for a variety of reasons. At this point, so much has happened that recapping it all would be lengthy, boring and unnecessary – dwelling on the past is exhausting and accomplishes nothing.

The past 90+ days have been exciting, overwhelming, eye-opening, liberating and stressful (among other things) and have taught me more about myself than I ever could have imagined.

As most of you know, my editorial internship recently turned into a part-time position that I couldn’t be more thankful for. I would love nothing more than to pursue a career in journalism and work for a magazine or digital publication of some sort. I’ve fallen head over heels for this industry.

Along with that new position, I took on a second job a few months ago in a different field that had always interested me. It was fun, exciting and completely different than anything I had ever done. It allowed me to leave my serving job and I finally felt like I was wearing my “big girl shoes”.

I was on top of the world.

It was only a matter of weeks before everything started crumbling beneath me. I began to realize how difficult maintaining two jobs that require a physical, mental and emotional investment is. 40+ hours a week plus 25+ hours a week began to take its toll and stress and anxiety set in.

058a77ab9fcaa861bf2e090df848bd68Admitting defeat is nearly impossible for me. I’ve always prided myself on being able to work hard, stay balanced and deliver better-than-average results. This time…I couldn’t do it. 

When fleeting moments of stress manifested into anxiety attacks and nervous-breakdowns, I knew. Work had taken over my life and I wasn’t happy. I couldn’t do it all. Something had to give.

Which brings me to today. As of next week, I’ll be back to working one career-focused job and picking up shifts at the restaurant a few nights a week. Do I feel like I took 2 steps forward and 5 steps back? Sometimes. Am I embarrassed that I couldn’t handle it all? A little bit. But I made a choice that allows me to focus whole-heartedly on what I’m passionate about and that’s okay.

The past 3 months brought me back to the idea that Build Your Bliss was founded on; happiness.

It isn’t one-size-fits-all. Life will forever be throwing curveballs and we have to decide whether we want to swerve out of the way or reach out and catch them. You have the power so don’t you ever, ever feel ashamed of the path you choose. You deserve a life filled with happiness and, to achieve that, you must first discover thing things that bring you joy. So, try everything, take chances, make mistakes and then use what you learn to build a world of bliss that you’re truly excited to live in.

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Emily

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